The holiday season can be really, really challenging. Everything from unresolved triggers around grief or family dynamics, children who have grown up and left, aging parents, losing your job—generally, the holidays can be a bit of a challenge emotionally, financially, and physically for all of us.

If you're struggling with setting boundaries this holiday season, you don't have to navigate this alone. Kelvin Gartly and our team at Eterna Counselling in Abbotsford specialize in helping individuals and families develop healthier relational patterns and communication skills. 

The holiday season often arrives with glittering lights, cheerful music, and invitations to connect. For many people, it's a time filled with warmth, excitement, and long-awaited traditions . And yet, in counselling sessions in December ,  a different story  emerges - one of overwhelm, exhaustion, emotional heaviness, and strained capacity.  These two truths can exist at the same time: the holidays can be both joyful and draining. As counsellors, we help people navigate that

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