Couples and marriage counselling in Abbotsford works with partners at every stage and every struggle. Our Registered Clinical Counsellors (RCC) and Registered Social Workers (RSW) support relationships that are thriving and want to stay that way, relationships on life support wondering if there's hope, and everything messy in between.
You might be newlyweds hitting unexpected friction, long-term partners who've drifted apart, engaged couples wanting to start strong, or exes trying to co-parent without destroying each other. Whether you're navigating betrayal that shattered everything, intimacy that disappeared somewhere between kids and careers, fights about money that never actually resolve, parenting styles that clash daily, or simply the slow fade of two people becoming strangers—our relationship therapy in Abbotsford uses proven approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Gottman Method, Imago work, and attachment theory to help you find your way back.
Struggling doesn't mean you've failed. It means your relationship has outgrown its current operating system, and you need new tools. We're here to help you build them.
WHAT WE WORK ON
INDIVIDUALIZED COUNSELLING CAN HELP YOU NAVIGATE LIFE'S CHALLENGES—WE'RE HERE FOR YOU.
Breaking the Cycles
That dance you do—where one pursues and the other withdraws, where criticism meets defensiveness, where nothing ever actually gets resolved? We show you how to recognize it happening and choose something different in real time.
Getting to the Real Issues
The fight about dishes isn't about dishes. The argument over sex isn't just about frequency. We help you both articulate what you're really asking for underneath the frustration.
Learning to Listen
Most couples think they're communicating when they're really just waiting for their turn to talk. We teach you how to hear your partner's pain without making it about defending yourself.
Repairing What's Broken
Betrayal. Harsh words said in anger. Years of small disappointments building into resentment. We walk you through the uncomfortable, necessary process of acknowledging harm and rebuilding safety.
Brining Back Desire
When physical intimacy disappears, it's usually telling you something about emotional connection. We address mismatched needs, shame, past trauma, and the vulnerability required to keep desire alive long-term.
Fighting without Destruction
Conflict will always exist. But it doesn't have to be toxic. We equip you with tools to disagree respectfully, repair quickly, and come out stronger instead of wounded.
Deciding What's Next
Sometimes therapy means staying together with renewed commitment. Sometimes it means consciously choosing to part ways. We support whichever truth emerges, without agenda.
Building Something New
We don't just fix problems—we help you envision what you want this relationship to become and create actionable steps to get there together.
Growing as Individuals
We help you navigate the tension between personal growth & staying connected—so one person's transformation doesn't threaten the whole relationship, and you learn to support each other's becoming.
WHAT WE HELP W ITH
WE OFFER A WIDE VARIETY OF SERVICES TO SUPPORT YOUR MENTAL HEALTH JOURNEY. THE TOPICS BELOW ARE JUST SOME OF THE AREAS WE ADDRESS—WE'RE HERE TO HELP YOU WITH ANY CHALLENGE YOU'RE FACING.
When Communication Falls Apart:
Can't Talk Without Fighting — Shutting Down & Stonewalling — Feeling Constantly Criticized — Talking Past Each Other — Avoiding Hard Conversations — Nobody Feels Heard
After Trust Gets Broken:
Cheating & Infidelity — Emotional Affairs — Lies That Built Over Time — Jealousy & Insecurity — Snooping & Control — Trying to Move Past Betrayal
When Connection Disappears:
No Physical Intimacy — Different Sex Drives — Feeling More Like Roommates — Emotional Withdrawal — Lost the Spark — Can't Be Vulnerable Anymore
Life Threw You Curveballs:
New Baby Stress — Parenting Young Kids — Blending Families — Money Problems — Career Pressure — Health Crisis — Aging Parents — Major Moves
Individuality Bleeding Into Partnership:
One Partner's Anxiety or Depression — Addiction Issues — Unresolved Trauma — Personality Clashes — Different Love Languages — Mental Load Imbalance
Boundaries & Family Drama:
Enmeshed or Codependent Dynamics — In-Law Interference — Extended Family Conflicts — Losing Yourself in the Relationship — Need for More Independence
Big Relationship Questions:
Should We Have Kids? — Parenting Philosophy Conflicts — Is This Worth Saving? — Considering Separation — Non-Monogamy Conversations — Conscious Uncoupling
WHY CHOOSE COUPLES COUNSELLING
Relationships aren't Instagram posts. They're messy, complicated, and require constant work—especially when life keeps throwing curveballs. At Eterna Counselling, our approach to couples therapy throughout the Fraser Valley is refreshingly honest: we don't peddle fairytales or quick fixes. We give you real tools for real problems, meet you exactly where you are, and help you figure out what's actually worth fighting for.
Whether you're hoping to reconnect, needing clarity, or just exhausted from doing the same thing and expecting different results—couples counselling in Abbotsford offers the outside perspective and proven strategies that can shift everything.
Ready to stop spinning your wheels? Reach out for couples therapy in Abbotsford and see if your relationship can become what you both need it to be.
WE'RE HERE, WHEN YOU'RE READY!
Cecilia Mannella
RCC & RSW
Kali McVeigh
RCC & RSW
Kayla Wild
RCC & RSW
Sarah McKay
RCC
Tamara Dueckman
RCC & RSW