Often times we create an opinion based on the idea that it must be concrete. Meaning there is no other option and our opinion is true no matter what. Sometimes we can get defensive about our own opinions and this is where issues can arise. But, your opinion doesn’t have to be concrete.
These issues are most apparent in relationships (all relationships). For example, we will form an opinion about a person based on the information given to us at the beginning (whether it is “this is a good person” or “this is a bad person”). From this initial impression, we believe that opinion to be true and no longer allow ourselves to be open to the idea that we might be wrong.
As a relationship develops, more information and more experiences can arise that go against our initial opinion (red flags or evidence). But, if we are not open to being wrong about our ‘first impression’ then we hold on to our initial opinion of this person and we avoid anything that contradicts what we first believed to be true.
When new information or research comes our way, we hold on to our ideas and beliefs and we don’t want to rethink them. This is also true not only for relationships but for our worldly views as well. The ability to rethink our own opinions opens up our world to more information and new ideas.
If we only viewed our opinions are being concrete and never changing then that would mean nothing evolves, which is far from the truth. What is true today is not going to be true forever.
So, I challenge you to rethink your opinions. Here’s one way you can do that:
- Make a list of your opinions that you feel concrete about (or previous ones that you held on to for a long time).
- Ask yourself: is it possible to be open to new information about those opinions? Could you possibly support another view?
It is our moral responsibility to rethink our opinions. By not holding true to one opinion, we are gifting ourselves with the ability to be open to new ideas as well as open to the ideas of those around us.
Watch the full Coffee Talk video on rethinking our opinions here.