This month in July we are talking about Harmony! And on today’s Therapy Thursday I am talking to you about why harmony is better than having balance in your life.
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We usually use balance as a word that relates to something free-flowing, holistic, or authentic. But that is not really what balance is all about, is it? Balance seems impossible to achieve in life. And I’ll tell you why… balance means equal and unfortunately we cannot live every aspect of our life equally.
This brings me to think about the meaning of words and how words really matter. Because words describe our lives, it is our way of communication. The words we use give us sensations in our bodies and they bring up feelings within us. It is important to think about the words we are using.
“I want more balance in my life”
This is what we hear a lot from many people. But here is the thing, the word balance means equal. It means both sides are equal – think about it like a pie, it gets divided equally. Balance makes sense for some things like spreadsheets and budgets but it does not make sense when it comes to your life. You don’t work for 8hrs, sleep for 8hrs, and clean for 8hrs. In life, we do not divide the pie equally for so that everything will fit in.
Harmony, on the other hand, is about the flow of things working together. It is not about balancing things. Think of it like music, different instruments come together to make harmony. When we think about our work, relationships, desire for leisure, etc. it is not about balancing everything equally. In harmony, we work with each aspect to benefit ourselves. How do we do this? We look at our wants, desires, and needs.
When things are not in harmony with each other it can look like a younger kids’ band class. You understand the song or melody they are trying to play but it just does not sound right, it is not completely harmonized. Just like harmony in our lives, we can understand the intent, but it just does not sound or feel right.
Today, I encourage you to take an inventory of your life right now. Think about all the things you are doing – what things work together? Which things do not? Make a list of all your responsibilities, wants, desires, dreams, and needs. List them all!
What things in your life are working in harmony? What is not? What things work really well together? What things do not? Ask yourself, how can these things work better together? Rather than balance.