Picture this, you are sitting on an island and you get to take all of your most favorite and safe people, laying on a lawn chair and taking in the nature around you. Who would be there? What is the weather like? What does the island look like? What activities and values do people have on your island? These are questions I have been journaling and dreaming about lately as I rumble with Glennon Doyle’s new book called Untamed. Who are you allowing on your island? Keep reading for a simple exercise to get real with your boundaries & values.
Glennon writes about this concept of developing a safe island for you where you can also invite the people that fit your values, perspectives, and lifestyles to join you on the island. The book further explores the power of the draw bridge and how you get to choose when people come and go from the island. I love this idea, as I have people in my life who have been on my island but as life moved along and as I discover more about who I am, the boundaries I hold, and the life I want; some of those people have left my island while others have joined.
In my life, there have been times where I needed to put people on the other side of my mote to keep my island safe until some healing has occurred and they were safe to come back onto the island however, not everyone was invited back. I really grabbed onto this concept as I think it is brilliant imagery to unpack as it has allowed my imagination to run free with developing my boundaries, values, wishes, and desires to create a badass island for myself.
Maybe like me, this concept might be helpful to you also, I would encourage you to grab some fun colourful pens and paper, sit down draw your island, let your mind run free with imagination, and explore what values you want your island to hold.
This would be an amazing and fun activity to do with your partner or as a whole family so you can gain a deeper understanding of your core values and boundaries that you choose for your very own personal island.