Are you feeling disconnected in your relationship? Well, you’re not alone! Disconnection is common but does not need to be permanent. Keep reading to learn some tips & tricks to connect and grow some roots in your relationship.
Relationships are hard work and anyone who tells you otherwise is without a doubt LYING! There are times, some more than others that we come to feel disconnected and distant in our relationships – but why? Well, the truth is- life takes over, things get busy, relationships take work and without prioritizing your relationship it can’t sustain itself. A relationship on its own is nothing without the togetherness- the ‘US’ part of those individuals who are contributing to the framework of it. YES, this means work – HARD, messy, frustrating, amazing, and relationship-giving work (to name a few)!
Think of this like you would your garden – if plants don’t get the water they can’t grow their roots which means nothing is growing – no flowers, no leaves, no nothing! SO when we focus on ‘watering’ relationships we are taking care of the roots which are life-giving and nurturing the foundation that strengthens the connection leading to more productive conflict resolution. If you’re human you likely have experienced how hard disagreements can be when we start from a place of disconnect, insecurity, and uncertainty. Deepening the relationship’s roots will ground us when storms show up.
Try these 3 tips to connect and grow some roots!
- Talk! Set time aside to talk and connect about all the things that aren’t about the day-to-day – get to know your partners’ world again. Start by talking about how the relationship began, what’s the love story of how you fell in love, and most importantly why have you decided to do this life together? Check into your roots!
- Prioritize your relationship! Make time for your relationship. Set some goals or try something new together- find a way to connect and enjoy some time outside of the mundane day-to-day. Start to bring life back in, get watering!
- Flirt! Have fun, play, and be silly! Bring fun and excitement into your world by taking advantage of the little moments to make it about the relationship. Enjoy each other by taking time to connect that is special to your relationship, explore what the growth has created!
What does your relationship need from you both to start to thrive? If you think back to when you first met often this brings us back to thinking about a time when nothing else mattered, a time where the relationship was easily the main focus and at times this can feel so far away. It’s so totally NOT!
Maintaining connection in relationships is dynamic, this is changing and needs room to shift as we shift both individually and together. The more we experience and learn the more we evolve which means we aren’t the same so why do we continue to focus on ‘how things were‘? – we have to let this go!
We can’t go back and be the way we were before all of this growing AND why would we? SO the relationship won’t be going back either, like never back to exactly the same. Show up for yourself, each other, and the relationship and trust the growing process. With these tips and intentions, the relationship will find its groove.
It’s about finding a ‘new’ and sustainable groove not trying to get the old back, make sense?
Have fun and get your growth on!