The word self-care has become a buzzword in the last number of years and has been thrown around without much of a definition or explanation. And if you’re anything like me, when you hear self-care you think when do I have time for that?! Today, I am getting you to think about self-care from a different perspective in hopes that it will help you develop a good self-care plan!
I have reflected on this word often as I wanted self-care in my life but I didn’t always have time for additional activities in my busy schedule. Defining words are really important to me, the dictionaries definition says “the practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress”. The word that really struck me was practice, meaning that self-care is something you must intentionally do and is a journey that is ever-changing and growing. A practice of anything comes with willful focus, self-discovery, and exploration, which really shifted my perspective, as I started asking myself how can I intentionally, at this moment take care of my overall well-being?
When I started to examine what I needed, I started to learn what my needs actually were, and more often than not, I was really desiring a connection to myself or something that brought me joy. This often looked like cuddling my dogs a little bit longer, sitting in quiet for a few minutes to breathe, or take an extra five minutes longer showering. I found that taking a minute to check in with myself on what I needed and implementing that desire made a huge difference for me and it came with little to no effort.
I found I didn’t need to have a long bubble bath, sign up for a hobby class, or work out for an hour even though those are great things, what truly brought me life was the connection I had with myself and that could be done within five to ten minutes. With this new perspective, I was able to move away from self-care being a chore and move into a place where I enjoyed slowing down for a few minutes to really understand what I needed to feel a sense of overall well-being.
Here is some journal prompts you can ask yourself to help develop a self-care plan:
- How do I define self-care?
- What need do I have in this moment that is going unmet and how can I meet it?
- How often do I need to check in with myself throughout the day to keep on top of my needs?