In the latest Coffee Talk with Cecilia, she talks about the criticism around body image that young children (girls) face. In her talk, she gets you to think about talking to your children from a different point of view. When it comes to body image many of us think about body positivity but Cecilia encourages you to focus more on body diversity. The fact that everybody is different and there is no one standard to achieve. Watch the full video below to learn more on how to talk to children about body image, body diversity, and body positivity.
When a child comes up to you and says something along the lines of ‘my thighs are too fat‘, our immediate reaction might be ‘you are amazing, you are beautiful just the way you are‘. We attempt to take that insecurity away from them and although it is positive and helpful in some ways, it is actually reinforcing the physicality. And because we are the parent or caregiver, it is the expected thing to say to the child and therefore it may not be believable by the child. Their response might be ‘well that’s because you love me and that’s why you’re saying this and everyone else thinks otherwise‘.
Instead, I want to encourage you to come to this conversation in a totally different way with a healthier and more empowered response. To focus on body diversity instead of body positivity. There is no one body that looks the same and body diversity is about all bodies being different. It’s about how diverse and amazing humans really are.
So instead of looking to body positivity, try responding with curiosity. Question the idea of where she (or he) got this idea. Ask ‘what makes you think that? where did this come from?‘ and jump into a conversation about all bodies being different and none of us are the same. That’s what makes us all so unique and amazing. Talk about what’s different about your body, other people’s bodies, their abilities, and so forth. Ask them what makes their body different from others and what is something their body can do that is really really cool.
Talking about body diversity in this way opens up the conversation for conclusivity around the ability of the body rather than focusing on the aesthetic of it. People can find their identity through a world of diversity and knowing that there is not just one standard to achieve.
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