Do you remember back when you were a kid and you needed a permission slip to go on school trips or to be absent from school for a day? These slips for me were like gold, as I was always wanting to try something or see something new and any reason not to go to school was a good one.
Fast forward to today and I now have Brene Brown giving me permission slips!! *happy dance
Brene Brown talks about permission slips in her work as guilt-free slips that we can write ourselves to release us from societies, families, and our own expectations. It is brilliant! Watch a short clip of how she explains it here.
Permission slips give us the freedom to do things and they release us from things that we don’t want to do.
In 2020, I realized I wrote A LOT of permission slips for myself. It was a difficult year in many ways and these slips were much needed. Some of my slips were:
- I have the permission to be sad because I’m living through a pandemic and it is hard.
- I have permission to watch TV all evening as my brain needs a break from the news.
- I have permission to take a day off of checking in with all my family members to see if they’re okay.
I had to write these slips because I needed a break and because I needed a break from feeling guilty that I needed a break!
I am human, and these permission slips allowed me to tune into myself and listen to what I needed. I would write these slips on a small post it so I could see it on my mirror every day. Or I would carry it with me in my pocket as a reminder that I have permission to feel or behave this way and not let guilt or expectations to creep back in.
If you were to write yourself a permission slip, what would it say?
- Are you needing to write yourself some permission slips?
- What permission slips would you write for yourself?
- Are you able to write permission slips for other people through this difficult time releasing them from expectations that may be too much?
- How as a family can we incorporate permission slips into our family culture?