Do you know what your love language is? Love languages was a concept developed originally to help married couples understand how their partner experiences and expresses love. However, this concept can be utilized in every relationship, as it gives you an understanding of how to speak the language of someone you care about.
The 5 ways identified on how people typically express and experience love is; quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, and acts of service. If you do not know what your love language is you can fill out a quick and free quiz online here & find out for yourself! It can be a fun activity for the whole family.
I have found that once I understood what I need to feel loved, I was able to teach others how to fill my cup and in turn, see what other people in my life needed from me so they can feel loved too. Having this understanding helped me to grow closer with people I cared about as I could give them love in the way they personally value versus only speaking or expressing my language in hopes to fill them up.
My love language is quality time, I get filled up with love when people I care about spend time with me. This can be going for walk, playing games, drinking tea together, or doing an activity where we get to laugh and have fun. My best friend’s love language is acts of service, if I do her dishes or cook her a meal she is just beaming!
When I learned about this concept it helped me discover my loved ones’ love languages, and I could be intentional in showing them my love through their way of understanding. I now have the ability to teach people what I need to feel loved by them so I can also experience the love they have for me.
The best way to learn what your partner, children, or friends love language is, is to simply ask, “How do you know that I love you?” They may respond with you hug me, you tell me, you take me places, you do things for me, or you give me things.
- What is your love language? What do you need to feel loved?
- What is your family and close friend’s love language?
- How can you show them you love them through their love language?