In the face of grief, I have taken up my yoga practice again. It’s funny how I have an on and off again relationship with yoga where I love it and yet struggle with it at the same time. The one thing I know to be true, is that yoga has been a tool for restoration, peace and movement in my life. The other day, my yoga teacher was sharing the topic of “the in between” and how we are in a constant state of in between something. And it is in this in between state that we struggle, learn and can grow. Whether it’s moving from illness to health, struggle to peace, brokenhearted to wholeness we constantly find ourselves in the in between.
As usual to my yoga practice and the wisdom of my teachers, this topic left me pondering this process of the in between in my own life and in the lives of others. Where are you in the in between? How do you handle the in between?
I know from my own life, that staying grounded in the in between is not only uncomfortable it can be tortuous. I would define myself as a pretty independent and competent woman in this world. I like to predict and prepare in my life and always have a plan in place that moves me towards my goals and what I want for my life. The loss of my husband radically changed me because I did not predict or was prepared for that. Now I find myself living in the in between and have found some footing in this place.
4 Things to help you find your footing in the in between
- Things don’t always go according to our plans and that is not a reflection of you or your plans. Bad things happen to good people all the time; it’s not a deserving or not deserving situation.
- Have people in your corner that are okay with the in between in your life. A lot of people are uncomfortable with their own in between so they can avoid or ignore your own process of navigating the in between. Find good people who can support you through it.
- Talk about it! In sharing our struggles, losses and victories we give voice to our own story of strength as we navigate the in between. It isn’t always pretty or easy, but it deserves to be shared and celebrated each step of the way.
- Do something that grounds you. I use yoga and a journal to keep my feet on the ground when the in between wants me to float away. Find something that works for you and do it! Be it yoga, mediations, hiking, fishing, running, swimming, sewing, drawing, painting, writing, jumping out of planes…..find something.
May peace find you in your in between.